Valerie Bertinelliis opening up about past trauma.
On Monday, the actress, 62, used a trending sound on Instagram to allude to trouble in a past relationship. “Why did you let them stay after finding the texts?“she wrote in a video. She then mouthed a voiceover that said, “Oh my god. Oh my god. Why did you do that?”
“I don’t know,” she finished the clip.
Also on Monday, theFood Network starshared an update on herdry January progressto her Instagram Stories.
In the series of videos, she admitted that, while the monthly alcohol cleanse has been great on her physical health, the sober period has forced her to reflect on her emotional past.
“I’m happy because I physically feel better. I’m getting better sleep, but I’ve noticed that – oh boy – lots of feelings are coming up,” she said.
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She added: “I need to feel. Because what I used to do is try to soothe them or at least try to ignore them with food or alcohol. And I don’t want to do that anymore. Wow, so many feelings coming up.”
After reiterating that she uses therapy as a healthy outlet, the actress opened up about past trauma and how her feelings have made her not feel “worthy” in the past.
“I have been screamed at so many times and told how fat and lazy I am,” Bertinelli said. “I realize…that was someone just projecting on me whatever they needed to project on me, but my part in all of it was believing it, and I don’t believe it anymore. But it still doesn’t stop the feelings from coming up and the hurt.”
“So that’s what we’re doing today. We’re feeling the feelings and letting them go. Giving them a voice,” she added.
“My core is happiness and joy, and it gets covered with the stupid things people say to me that I started to believe,” she said. “I’m saying this because I know a lot of you out there feel the same way, and you’re told shit that’s not true. It’s not true. Someone’s trying to dim your light. F— ‘em. Shine bright.”
Bertinelli’s posts come about after her marriage to ex-husbandTom Vitaleended last year. She was also married to the lateEddie Van Halenfrom 1981 to 2007.
The actressfiled for divorcefrom Vitale in May 2022, six months afterfiling for legal separationin November 2021. In November 2022, sheshared on Twitterthat she was celebrating what she called the “second best day of my life,” when she became officially divorced from Vitale.
Earlier this month, Bertinelli spoke candidly about people who endure emotional abuse in their relationships.
In anInstagram post, she reposted a video of a woman speaking about why men and women leave relationships, before she provided her own commentary after the short clip ended.
“When it comes to emotional abuse and mental abuse, it’s not talked about, because you just think, ‘I’m not being physically abused, so it’s not abuse,’ " Bertinelli said.
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source: people.com
